Undercover Evangelical
Gina Welch is a smart, young, citified Jewish writer who grew up in Berkeley, California, and graduated from Yale. In a desire to know more about evangelicals, whom she kept running into when she moved to Virginia, she decided to attend Jerry Falwell’s Thomas Road Baptist Church in Lynchburg. As a bonus, she thought her unlikely pairing with Falwell could provide the grist for a book. In her words, “I considered him a homophobe, a fearmonger, a manipulator, and a misogynist—an alien creature from the most extreme backwater of evangelical culture.” (Falwell described himself as a fundamentalist, not an evangelical, a distinction lost on most in secular culture.)
As for Welch herself, “I cuss, I drink, and I am not a virgin. I have never believed in God.” A neophyte to religion, Welch didn’t know you could just show up at church. She thought you had to qualify somehow, like pledging a sorority or being invited into a country club, so she signed up for a Connections class designed for people interested in membership. Soon she found herself immersed in an exotic subculture with its own rules: no swearing, drinking, smoking, premarital sex, plunging necklines, spaghetti straps, facial piercings, short skirts, or R-rated movies.
At first the lingo confused her: insider phrases such as “feed my lambs,” “soul-winning,” and talk about spiritual gifts. Over the next months she played by the rules (mostly) and faked her way into a singles ministry called EPIC: Experiencing Personal Intimacy with Christ. She attended worship services, learning in time to appreciate the rousing “praise music” that at first seemed jarring and distasteful. With some misgivings she went forward for conversion, got baptized, and even volunteered for a mission trip to Alaska, all as part of her undercover journalism and without revealing her true identity.
Predictably, Welch encountered some things that made her uncomfortable. Her initial introduction to the ministry of Thomas Road took place around Halloween at an elaborate haunted house called Scaremare which featured fake aborted fetuses, attack zombies, and an actor hanging on a cross with his head lolling on his chest. Fear seemed ubiquitous, with Falwell predicting the rapture in 2006 and a Gospel magician delivering a scary talk to children about hell. In one of her most unsettling experiences Welch presented the plan of salvation at Children’s Church, reciting such phrases as “Jesus the savior took our sins to the cross,” and “The Bible says, ‘and without the shedding of blood is no remission.’” She adds, “When I finished my segment I virtually ran to the side of the room.”
Though she objected strongly to Falwell’s politics and cringed at his fundraising techniques and hucksterism, over time she found herself captivated by his charm and charisma, so much so that she felt genuine sadness at his death in 2007. She dared not tell her other-world friends about his effect on her, for they were repulsed by his right-wing views and the anti-gay policies of his church and his school, Liberty University. “Unable to explain the odd couple of my affection for Jerry Falwell and my loathing of his ideals,” she nevertheless attended the memorial service after his death.
To her credit, Welch genuinely wrestled with the main points of evangelical theology. The Trinity baffled her, as did the Atonement: How could Jesus taking on our sins satisfy an angry God? She listened to her teammates explain the gospel in Children’s Church. “The message—it’s okay that you do bad things, because everyone does bad things, and everyone can be forgiven, but you should try to be as good as you can be anyway—was a nice one. But the phrasing of it—Jesus loves you in spite of the fact that you’re a dirty rotten sinner—how could that provide children with solace?”
Everywhere she turned, theology seemed a conundrum. The Bible contains apparent contradictions but is inerrant; we are completely forgiven but still must do good works; Jesus died to please God yet somehow was God. The book that records her experience admirably avoids a tone of condescension about doctrine and those who believe it, though in the end she remains unconvinced.
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I have read other undercover accounts of evangelicals reported with far less empathy. Indeed, Gina Welch accepts at face value the transformed lives of those she meets: a former cocaine addict now a student at Liberty University, recovering addicts serving on the staff of a rescue mission, couples who selflessly adopt children as part of their pro-life commitment. After she herself responds to an altar call in order to seek baptism, she writes, “I was supposed to have a kind of flinty satisfaction and sense of homecoming, as if I could fall into the crowd and be received in a soothing embrace as intensely familiar as a relative’s laugh. But I felt more like a knock-kneed fawn at a meeting of wolves, my wolf-hide disguise slipping out of place. Because even though I had just had my first hint of what Evangelicals feel that make them so passionately devoted, and even though it would be some time before I found myself called upon to pray out loud, I was still not a Christian.”
Eventually Welch did learn to pray out loud, a terrifying experience that she prepared for by practicing at her desk at home. She liked the sense of calmness that prayer produced, and even the informality that evangelicals use in talking to God. The friendliness, optimism and, yes, genuine happiness of the people she got to know surprised her. As she recalls, “what I envied most about Christians was not the God thing—it was having a community gathering each week, a touchstone for people who share values, a safe place to be frank about your life struggles, a place to be reminded of your moral compass. Having a place to guard against loneliness, to feel there are others like you.”
The worship services eventually won her over too. She was amazed by the church members’ generosity in giving and their passion in singing. Some raised their arms high in the air, like rockets about to take off, alarming her at first until she decided that people at sports and political events showed just as much passion with less at stake. The stirring song “Days of Elijah” became one of her favorites.
After almost two years Welch abruptly ended her experiment. Friends at the church were hurt that she broke off contact, not even returning their phone calls. As she turned to writing the book, her experience at Thomas Road continued to affect her. Impressed by what she had learned about forgiveness, she met with a former teacher to seek reconciliation over a past dispute. She watched old services on her laptop and to her horror found herself singing along. “I felt awful if I slept late on Sundays, couldn’t figure out how to organize my day, couldn’t relax. I missed hearing Ray [one of the pastors] preach. I really missed my friends. I missed the warmth, the easy smiles people offered me when I walked into the room. I missed singing at the top of my lungs in church…. I was sick from lying. I had a sour stomach all the time.”
In a revealing passage, Welch describes the effect of hearing a sermon on Psalm 139. “God-love, the love in the psalm, the love in Jesus loves you—that was Mobius strip love, love with no beginning or end, love that was both calm and complete, unflinching in the face of anything you could reveal about yourself. Who wouldn’t want that? I certainly did, especially in that moment—knowing the secrets in my own heart, knowing that soon they’d be revealed.” She ends the moment of longing and vulnerability with this line: “But wanting it still didn’t make me believe it.”
After a long break, almost two years of no contact, Gina Welch returned to Thomas Road and met separately with a former friend named Alice and with Pastor Ray, who had guided her during her stay there. She came clean, telling them of the project, sparked by her desire to write a book that would help people understand evangelicals better. She admitted the deception, the questionable ethics of what she had done. She ended the project after the trip to Alaska in part because she felt uncomfortably close to the people she was lying to and in part because she knew it was wrong to feign belief in something others staked their lives 
on. They took it well. Pastor Ray even prayed for her, and for the book, which would be published the following year as In the Land of Believers: An Outsider’s Extraordinary Journey into the Heart of the Evangelical Church.
The conversation with Alice took a different tack. Alice talked about her feelings of abandonment, of betrayal. “I thought we were friends,” she said. She imagined Gina looking at Caller ID and deciding not to answer her calls. Welch apologized for hurting her, but not for the project itself. She quotes Joan Didion: “Writers are always selling somebody out.”
Church had changed her, Welch admitted to her friend Alice. She writes, “I loved having that sense of community and also that serious, regular self-inquiry. Our relationship had changed me; feeling so happy in our friendship had made me think differently about Christians. But just like her, I couldn’t imagine ever believing anything other than what I believed. I had no choice in that.”
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I learned a lot from In the Land of Believers. Aside from its dubious ethics, her project offers a fascinating and instructive glimpse into a subculture that is rarely examined so respectfully from the outside. In fact as I read her book I recalled my own days growing up in exactly the opposite environment from Gina Welch. I knew virtually no one but evangelicals. I too had to learn the Christian phrases that soon became clichés, went forward again and again wondering if this time might be genuine, practiced praying aloud to sound spiritual, puzzled over my lack of feelings during such solemn events as baptism and the Lord’s Supper. Those who grow up in the church and those who approach it as a sociological experiment face the same danger, that it may become a comfortable pattern of behavior insulating us from reality rather than expressing it. Jesus criticized the most spiritual people of his day, the Pharisees, for precisely that.
Through the grace of God, and after a time of tossing aside the subculture like a stifling and unwelcome costume, I found that the words and practices can convey reality as well as hypocrisy. I must disagree with Welch’s conclusion, “I couldn’t imagine ever believing anything other than what I believed. I had no choice in that.” Surely we do have a choice, and Welch made one in turning away from what she observed at one particular church.
Even so, Welch’s account reminded me of the true attraction of the evangelical church to someone who approaches it with inbuilt hostility. In the New Testament, Jesus, Paul, John, and James each stress one principle above all others: Love God and love your neighbor. Church surveys show that 80 percent of all conversions come about as an outgrowth of friendship. Thomas Road follows the Southern Baptist tradition of programmed evangelism, yet all the expensive and well-designed programs of evangelism combined produce only a fraction of the results of simple friendship. In the words of Tim Keller, “Don’t think in terms of what used to be called friendship evangelism. Think in terms of friendship. Your evangelism should be organic and natural, not a bunch of bullet points and agenda items that you enter into a conversation hoping to get to so you’re almost like a marketer.”
I doubt Jesus keeps track of how many theological arguments his followers win; he may well keep track of how we love. Even the Apostle Paul, who worked as hard as anyone in history to bring people into the kingdom, had to admit, “If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.” Gina Welch has moved on to other writing projects, and I imagine the mysteries and knowledge she heard about in Lynchburg will gradually fade away. Her experience of being loved, even by those she deceived, likely will not.
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For Yancey, reading offered a window to a different world. So, he devoured books that opened his mind, challenged his upbringing, and went against what he had been taught. A sense of betrayal engulfed him.
Thank you for posting the review … and again thank you for suggesting the book because i am going for it
Few people, especially in war time, have a problem with spies and “plants” fraternizing with the opposition under cover of friendship. We accept this as a reality of life – that sometimes subterfuge and deception has to be employed in order to defeat a much greater evil. To extrapolate this ploy to cases where the impersonator is doing it “just to see what happens” or (worse) merely to advance his or her literary career is certainly more dubious. The one famous incident when someone outwardly conformed to Christian ritual and practice just to keep the domestic peace (CS Lewis as an adolescent) was later recalled by him with disgust, and that did not directly involve deceiving anyone close to him. But then, how many of us turn to God from pure motives? Is selfish comfort or the possiblity of enhanced prosperity, escape from potential punishment, or filling of a psychological void in life any more worthy? A cynic could claim that people only turn to God out of narcissistic immaturity. Even if this were true, it only shows that God is not picky about who turns to Him. He can use any motive, if only the person will open himself to Him. Perhaps Gina Welch really came close to being open to God, but when faced with a real choice she shut the door, and doing that knowingly is what precipated the crisis of conscience that forced her to leave. Just as God uses those who preach Christ out of envy or out of strife, He can presumably use the most unworthy motives in those who come into His orbit. The whole story has interesting implications for the role of personal choice in coming to Christ. Did she articulately decide that she just couldn’t swallow the whole package, or was she prevented by the ineluctable status of not being elected?
Lying, cheating and stealing: something foreign to me. However, sometimes my own sins haunt. I was thinking about God between the lines in His Word. You see I have mental illness and God has said no to the healing. I watched 20/20 about Kaycee Degur last night….how can we not execute men who rapes like that? I would be like the mother, how can I forgive? God protected her in his lie and others. I was simply upset for laughing with friends over finding the Luthern’s church old sexton’s paperwork and his love letter to his lover. Granted it was the sin of that church 4 generations ago. But, why would I laugh over sins past. I don’t think God laughs at our sins. Many of my friends who want and/or wanted to commit suicide I worry about….but, I have no way to find them. I must trust God for that kind of murder, if they are no longer here on earth. I attempt to tell my friends of certain sins are wrong, but they don’t believe me and/or shrug their shoulders….”it was only once”….we must continue to pray!
Thank you for posting this review of In the Land of Believers. I read the book at your recommendation – I have an ‘If Philip Yancey recommends it, it’s got to be good’ complex – and I wish all those who mingle politics and the Gospel would read Gina’s book…for look at the one time she felt like (her words) “leaping the pew”: it was when a singer performs a “silly song, lyrically” (again her words) that touched her heart. The foolishness of the Gospel message, the simplicity of it, silly though it seemed – rocked her undercover world and touched her so deeply that she was “transported”. She calls the singer a Weapon of Mass Salvation. The Gospel, unpoliticized and yet carrying the life changing message of Jesus’ love – got through to her for a moment.
Thank you for recommending this book. It refocused me on what is truly important – my Savior’s good news.
This is a very interesting and informative post. I think that one thing we have to understand is that American society today is extremely politicized, and that political interpretations of Americanized Christianity often overpower any message of grace. One only has to see the popularity of someone like Bill Maher, who describes evangelicals in obscene ways, to understand the level of hatred that now exists among Americans.
No doubt, Ms. Welch came into her “investigation” as a person of the Cultural Left and the Democratic Party, and then goes right into the heart of the Religious Right, and for most people that is where things stop. What I do find interesting and, frankly, surprised is the fact that she really was able to experience at least some of the grace that should be found among believers, be they evangelicals or fundamentalists. We evangelicals often do not exhibit much grace to the outside world, and the fact that evangelicals often are associated with the Republican Party makes us even less appealing to much of American society today.
I grew up in the evangelical subculture (my father taught at Covenant College for many years, and I even remember attending a writing seminar by Phil Yancey when he was there), and when I was younger, the political divides were not as great. Many of our evangelical friends were Democrats (1950s and 60s and early 70s) and the various political movements of the evangelicals had not yet occurred, i.e. the foundation of Moral Majority.
From what I can tell, the move by the Democrats to try to codify much of the Sexual Revolution, along with the growing divides over abortion pretty much put the evangelicals in the Republican camp. As much as I hate this political development, I will say that Democrats now really want nothing to do with evangelicals and are quite happy to have them out of the party.
As a long-time observer of the evangelical scene, I believe that the foray into politics has been a disaster. While I can understand why Christians have become obsessed with the political scene, nonetheless we have to remember that in the words of economist Robert Higgs, politics ultimately is “the systematic organization of hatreds.”
http://blog.independent.org/2012/05/05/the-systematic-organization-of-hatreds/
I think it is important to remember that what Ms. Welch found unexpectedly attractive was the grace that believers demonstrated. That grace cannot be found in politics, as Higgs writes:
“Even a devout Christian has no small difficulty in following Christ’s admonition to “love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” But when we live and act in the private realm, we can make our best attempt to love others or at least to tolerate them in peace, and we have many options for avoiding or running away from hateful people and situations; occasionally we may even be able to lead someone, or ourselves, to substitute love, or at least understanding, for hatred.
“In politics and government, however, the institutional makeup fosters hatred at every turn. Parties recruit followers by exploiting hatreds. Bureaucracies bulk up their power and budgets by artfully weaving hatreds into their mission statements and day-to-day procedures. Regulators take advantage of artificially heightened hatreds. Group identity is emphasized at every turn, and such tribal distinctions are tailor-made for the maintenance and increase of hatred among individual persons who might otherwise disregard the kinds of groupings that the politicians and their supporters emphasize ceaselessly.”
Dear Philip,
Your writings have truly been a great blessing to me always, and now this wonderful briefing about Gina Welch is truly blessed, I pray that may the church always be as loving, caring and welcoming as our Lord Jesus is always.
Your writings have been a foundational resource in my life and for my faith.
I hope Gina reads them some day.
I’m curious to know what people think about prayer? I’ve read your book, “The gift Nobody Wants” Excellent book BTY! Has helped me on many occasions for various reasons. Evangelizing by prayer only is a isolating event, however, the prayer of the righteous (which I think as christians we all want to obtain) is sometimes a catch 22. I can pray for healing, NO God might say, I can pray for someones’ salvation now that is a fine line debate; God’s jugement is always right, can you ever fall on the sword, “if they obey God’s Word from that will reap God’s blessings according to God’s ways (his Word), if they disobey God’s Word from that will reap God’s provision, but only according to his Ways? or I can pray for someones’ else’s healing? Listening? Too much to ponder….
Also, reading Vol. II in William Gurnall’s book pg. 32 on the ‘shield of faith’, your friend Richard always comes to mind while i read this book….it is so good and it might answer a lot of his questions.
I have a new e-mail address, i hope you can delete the old one. Thanks.
Thanks for this article, Philip. I really enjoyed it as always. I ‘visit’ other writers, but I always feel at home when reading your words.
On a completely unrelated matter, I remember you once said that you need to read 17 positive letters from fans to overcome the effects of one negative letter from a critic. I wonder if the ratio today is any different? I suspect it is.
Hi Phillip.
I’m your big fan from Indonesia.
I hope you would make a plan to visit Indonesia (which is the biggest Islam country in the world. ) and hold maybe like two days seminar about writing (or maybe about how to live like Jesus in the country that most of the people are Islam)
God bless you Phil!! 🙂
Thanks for the great reading over the years. Have you ever written about how our faith evolves over the course of our spiritual journeys? I came to Christ in college during the 70’s, searching for meaning at a time where so many of us were disillusioned. We found that meaning by following Jesus, and we were out to change the world. I became very active in church and ministry, but over the years I have felt less and less “evangelical” and have struggled with issues I used to be sure about, such as heaven and hell, Jesus being the only way to know God, etc. It’s not so much a case of doubt or being wounded by some of the craziness of the subculture, it’s just that I feel that I’ve grown in a different direction. I think it would be interesting to have some kind of follow-up study of the “Jesus People” from the 60’s and 70’s to see what spiritual roads have been taken. Well, thanks again for the wonderful encouragement over the years.
Hi, Philip. When I first saw your blog title, I thought you might be writing about Unlikely Disciple by Kevin Roose. It’s interesting that Kevin and Gina were both undercover in Lynchburg at about the same time, although Kevin was actually enrolled as a student at Liberty U. Probably the most heartwarming thing, to me, is that both authors seem to walk away with a lot of positives–community, grace, love. Seeds planted for later on?
Right now, I’m finishing up What Good Is God? … and especially enjoyed reading “Student Daze.” Lots of connections for me there, brother.
Best wishes from VA.
Another very thought provoking post Philip, and several of the replies have also got me thinking. Thanks everyone! Certainly I find it odd to think of inviting someone who is un-churched into this strange world of Sunday mornings and mid week meetings that so many of us inhabit. Philip, on a related topic, I’ve been challenged, comforted and equipped by your books, is there any possibility that you might consider tackling the subject of evangelism / outreach in a book with a similar manner to Prayer at some point in the future? Best wishes from the mountains of New Zealand.
Philip, I am a huge fan of your writing and your philosophy about life/spirituality in general. I so appreciate your posting this. I look forward to reading this book in hopes of gaining insight into my own distrust of the church itself. I love God and have always appreciated the church community, but have been absent from it for many years due to the body’s inability to accept me as a gay person. (Loved your ch. 13 of Grace, by the way! Thank you for that!)
I was entrenched into the church (call it fundamentalism or evangelicalism — it was much the same to me) for decades until I came out of the closet and received only judgment and cold shoulders. All of the rule following seemed great until it came to people actually applying the ANSWER to the question of, “What WOULD Jesus Do?!”
And in some cases, it is not all that clear, I grant you that. But He did make it clear to love our neighbors, among countless other verses.
I don’t miss all the legalism, EVEN THOUGH MY PERSONAL LIFE HASN”T CHANGED ONE BIT — but I do certainly miss that community that is found in many churches — the BODY which is fellowship and encouragement and support and so on.
I have an appreciation for this woman’s quest to see what it was all about, and DESPITE her “dubious ethics,” I do applaud her for coming clean and letting folks know what she had done before she simply went and published the book.
Thank you for always pushing many of us to THINK and examine our hearts!
Peace, ~ Julie
Thanks for this, Julie, and for not giving up on the faith despite the treatment you’ve received from the church. As I wrote in my comment to Tracy, I saw many parallels between Gina’s experience and that of gay people in the church. I like your spirit.
Philip
As a pastor in a church plant, I think I would find her observations valuable. We’re not just playing in a different ballpark now; we’re playing a different game completely and often trying to do it with the same equipment. I love the Mobius strip image. I love that she can’t get away from God, either. You can’t play at God without him taking the game very seriously.
Thanks for this review! Makes me want to go download the kindle edition now.
As a Messianic-Jewish NYC native who, as a middle schooler, was uprooted and transplanted in Lynchburg, VA (and for a while in this same church) I find this book fascinating. I’m sad to say, Gina walked away from the Church with much more openness, grace and forgiveness than I did.
My experience as an ‘insider’ was significantly different than her’s as an ‘outsider’. As a result of inconsistencies that I experienced between was the Bible teaches and how Christians were living, I allowed anger and bitterness towards the Church (and ultimately Jesus) to form in my heart . . . it took a chisel and great persistence on the part of the Holy Spirit to convict me of my sin , transform my life, and bring me back into fellowship with the Church.
What an important reminder of the necessity to live as Loving-Disciples, not just Church-Members.
Excellent blog. I have very mixed feelings about what she did. But I so agree with you when you said, “He may well keep track of how we love”. I know that’s true. By His grace may I be a vessel of His love to those both in and out of the faith.
This story has given me a lot to think about.
PS: Like the lady from NJ, I’m waiting for a new book from you, too!
This is really fascinating. Seeing things from her perspective gives voice to a lot of things we experience but have been unable to express, often because of a variety of fears.
It seems as if the things which last longest and speak the deepest –sheer friendship, for example– are the things we often emphasize least. Agape love, grace in action, is a powerful thing. But this is often offset by our insistence on conformity to the “doctrines of grace.” We tend to think that doctrine must come first in teaching and sharing God with others, and then love will flow out of that afterwards. Is it such a blasphemous thing to suggest that maybe we have this backwards?
After reading this, I think we need to be wiser about the preaching of the atonement of blood in particular. It’s such a lynch pin that we feel we have to defend it strongly and state it loudly, as if stating it will have a magical effect on the hearers or powers of darkness. I dare say we often push confession of the mechanical facts of the atonement rather than letting His love lead the way and verify it in the hearer’s heart in His timing.
A large part of us seems to care more about pushing confession of creed beliefs more than listening to people or letting them take their time. This is especially obvious with how we push our children, isn’t it? We must convince our children of their utter depravity, of their sins, of the blood atonement, etc., rarely stopping to think whether it might traumatize them at a young age (not to mention unbelievers who walk in off the street). To merely suggest that we think more carefully about how strongly we emphasize these things (and on whom) would elicit chastisements of being ashamed of the faith or hiding what we believe, etc.
I fear that evangelical response to Welch will prefer to focus on her and whether she was right or wrong in doing this, rather than a stark look in the mirror at our own intolerance and cult-likeness at times. It’s more comfortable to evaluate her than to look in the mirror.
I’m not sure I think there is much of a choice to believe, or at least it may not feel like there is much choice. Perhaps believers can’t easily imagine this. Still, “I think there is no suffering greater than what is caused by the doubts of those who want to believe.” Flannery O’Connor. http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/show/214071 (The rest of the quote is lovely too.)
What I can’t imagine is spending two years as an “undercover” fundamentalist. Imagine, living two years as someone you are not. That is rather chilling.
Philip, I thoroughly enjoyed this post and your insights and I believe Gina Welch will one day become a believer because she was shown LOVE, just as you said. I heartily agree with you about friendships. She will never forget this experience. I’ve visited relatives in Lynchburg several times over the years. I never met Falwell but did meet his patient long-time secretary. I went to a 4th. of July celebration at Liberty a few years ago – Falwell was quite a prankster – thousands of people were told President Bush was going to be in the audience – a Bush impersonator was driven in with an entourage of “important” people. I was not amused.!… On visits to Lynchburg I have met many Liberty students and they are so friendly, respectful, and well-behaved. It’s a good environment as far as I can tell. I predict she will write another book one day – as a believer! Thank you posting about this. I might read her book. We need to be reminded often of how much we influence others in subtle ways. Waiting for a new book from you – – a fan from N.J.
I haven’t read the book yet, but from what I’ve read here I have to wonder just how well she really came to understand evangelicals, since, as u said, Falwell and his church are fundamentalists, NOT evangelicals. Her failure to get something so basic as that makes me wonder what else she didn’t get.
Very interesting, Philip. I really admire and appreciate your perspective. You certainly are right about love and how Jesus demands it of us. I see so much of the evangelicals and fundamentalists focusing on social issues with which they disagree to the exclusion of demonstrating love.
To feign someone else’s belief and to creep into his world just to ‘spy’ him out is not ethics. Writer or no-writer, one should not do that. Gina has even accepted the Holy Communion at the Lord’s Table to ‘spy’ a community. That’s bad. As a human, I wouldn’t do that simply to write a book or feed my thoughts.
This sounds like an interesting read. Because she had such deep involvement I wonder if the book gives clues as to how and why churches are diminishing in their ability to share the message of the gospel in a way that will reach postmoderns. I wonder if the forgiveness that had intrigued her was offered and received at the end of it all?
I think you’re being a bit kind talking about ‘dubious ethics’ – I don’t think it’s right to build relationships built on lies for any reason. Even if God doesn’t exist, I still don’t think it’s right to falsely pledge your life to Him. I sympathise with the hurt of the woman who was left saying ‘I thought we were friends…’.